A Language Guide for Family Recovery
In moments of fear, anger, or heartbreak, it's easy to speak from panic, blame, or control.
This page offers a gentle shift—from reaction to recovery, from old habits to new healing.
| If you hear yourself saying… | Try saying instead… |
|---|---|
| "Why are you doing this again?" | "I feel scared and overwhelmed. I'm going to take space to stay grounded." |
| "You're ruining everything." | "This is hurting me. I care about you, but I need to protect my peace." |
| "If you loved me, you'd stop." | "I love you, and I'm not willing to live this way anymore." |
| "I can't believe this is happening again." | "This is painful. I need to reach out to someone who supports my recovery." |
| "I'm done. Don't ever talk to me again." | "I'm setting a boundary because I care about both of us." |
| "You always lie." | "I want honesty, and I need to trust myself even when I don't get it from you." |
| "Fine, do whatever you want." | "I can't control your choices—but I'm responsible for how I respond." |
Recovery Communication Reminders:
- Speak from values, not fear.
- Use "I" statements—own your truth without blame.
- Less is more. Calm is powerful. Silence is okay.
- You don't need to win—you need to stay well.
You're not here to control them.
You're here to practice recovery—with your words, your presence, and your tone.